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Receive our newsletterThe word 'foreplay' can be misleading; it can be interpreted to mean activity that happens before the main event of sex. For a robust sex life, foreplay should be treated as no less important than sex. It is a main event.
To help with this - especially in a long term relationship - expand your definition of foreplay. Use text, voicemail, or any of the multiple forms of remote communication available, to start the build up to sex well in advance. Flirt with your partner. Let them know that you are thinking about their body, and about being intimate with them. If foreplay starts well before you touch each other, the build up of anticipation will heighten the pleasure of your experience.
Another way of making foreplay a main event is to take a non-linear approach. Move away from the 'start with kissing end with genital rubbing' type approach. It's predictable and potentially boring. And foreplay should not be boring.
Tantric physiology divides the body into a range of erogenous zones, and advises an approach whereby you move in towards the genitals, but then move away, touching the belly, back of the knees and nape of the neck for example. This dance of foreplay allows you and your lover to extend your enjoyment, building up excitement and prolonging it, building it a little more and prolonging it further. It teases you both into pleasure.
So, use your imagination and mix it up a little. Enjoy!
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